Showing posts with label clothes. Show all posts
Showing posts with label clothes. Show all posts

Monday, September 8, 2008

What To Wear to the Interview

Probably this is directed more to women but I may be able to offer a few techniques to the guys.

So, what do you wear to an interview? Obviously, we've covered the worst scenario in a previous post, all in good fun but all too true. So, now, if I were interviewing what would I be looking at. Remember, the interview is about YOU. The interviewer will see what you wear but what he or she should remember is you, not your clothes. Unless they are atrocious. If the clothes yell louder than you talk, well, keep submitting those resumes. That doesn't mean be colorless. It means be tasteful. They call if professional dress. Watch the lawyer shows. They know how to do it.

Size doesn't matter when it comes to looking good. Everyone has a good feature. Find it. Flaunt it tastefully. Big women can look well dressed and attractive. I know. I come from a long line of BBW's who knew how to dress, even on a budget. Avoid anything with bold prints all over the body. You will look like a walking sofa. My feeling is that big women look best in straight vertical styles with minimal prints. Knee length skirts keep you from looking like a blimp. Find good shoes.

Clean lines. Ruffles are fine in teensy portions, say at a cuff. Understated is the key. This is particularly true if you are a size large.

If you have a tailored suit and a pretty blouse, I'd say wear it. If you like color, that's fine too, but stick with solids or vertical strips in small quantities. Pair strips with a solid so they aren't over powering. Red is actually known to be a power color but don't overdo it. A red dress, if you're slender might be fine but maybe not if you are an 20+.

A red blazer with navy skirt or slacks is great and a better choice if the fit is good. Put a pretty white blouse underneath and a gold pin on the lapel. If you aren't into red, find the color that is appropriate with your coloring. There are sites that can teach you about what colors will suit you best. I tend to look best in rich or dark colors like teal, navy, emerald, burgundy. I call them jewel tones. Black is also a good color on me. But it might not suit everyone. Some people appear washed out with dark or heavy colors. Pastels would probably be their best choice.

If you are into scarfs, find a book that gives you examples that suit your look and teach you how to drape or tie them. Thick necks might not do scarves well.

If you favor slacks, find a pair that FIT. This means they don't conform to your cellulite bumps. They fall cleanly from the waist and hip. They don't hug the buttocks either. We all know you have them but over time, those things are gonna do ugly things. Slacks that don't fit well will wear in the places that rub the most. Avoid what we all called pedal pushers when I was a girl but they are now called Capris. Those are for beach wear or biking (pedal pushers... get it) or mall crawling.

Heels are o.k. within reason but not stilts. No more than 2 inches. Makes the leg look nice but you won't totter and your feet won't kill you for a bit. For daily office work, (sigh) stick with the less than 2 inch policy. Every time I wear higher, my feet hurt by night and the next day, too. I love heels. My feet just don't love them anymore.

Knee length dresses or skirts. No one wants to see your stuff when you sit down. That's the nicest way I can say it. Save it for the pole dancing job.

Basic hosiery. I only say this because you don't want a distraction. You can save the pretty patterned ones for after you get the job.

Simple jewelry. Note the lapel pin above. If you opt for necklaces... stick to simple and one. A single strand of pearls look great with a tailored look. Faux works if you aren't lucky enough to have the real ones.

If you wear makeup, keep it light. You don't know what kind of lighting you will be seen in during the interview. Lights can be cruel to older women and if you use the wrong makeup for the lighting, you will end up looking hideous no matter what your age. Check you makeup in several lights but again, go for as natural a look as possible while still doing what makeup was designed to do-- make flaws look natural.

I don't actually know what to tell you about hair. I have waist-length, straight hair. I can do curls up high, a chignon, a french braid with a bun at the base or a low ponytail, a lover's knot on the crown of my head or 60's flower child. For office work, I've always favored one of the up do's so it isn't in my way. With my hands bothering me, the pony tail has become pretty favored. My office is a bit laid back so most of the women often wear casual slacks or capris. I often wear more casual clothes. But not for the interview. For that, I put my hair up, usually with the curls or in the fancy bun.

If you tend to be frizzy, go somewhere and get it fixed. If you get the job it will be worth it. Over dyed hair is ugly. Sorry. You've abused it and it lacks shine and body. Find a hairdresser to fix it.

To really impress, find a hair stylist that can help you find the look that suits your face! Just because you like it doesn't mean it suits the shape of your face. There are books and websites that can teach you about facial shapes and the types of hair styles that will flatter you. Take the time to research it. It is why I can wear severe buns and a french braid.

Color is a matter of choice. I've not become so gray that I care to bother with it at this point. I may never care. When I do, I'll have to decide on how to handle it. I am a boring brown with a lot of gray now but at one time I had a lot red and gold and blond highlights, so much so that I could be called blond. Those red, gold and blond strands are now all gray. {sigh}

Finally, hygiene. Take a good bath. Brush your teeth. Get them cleaned if you can and if not, use baking soda for several weeks. It works and if you keep using it, a professional cleaning may never be needed. Seriously.

Go easy on the cologne. Some people are allergic. Be a shame to cause the interviewer to go into an allergic reaction. Doubt you'd get the job. If you bathe in a good soap you probably won't need a lot of other stuff. I love perfume and showering myself in it. Restrain yourself. I am serious about the allergies. I once got a new doctor and they sent me a letter before my appointment telling me that she was allergic to some colognes and to please not wear them to my appointment. I didn't.

One thing we can't forget is BODY LANGUAGE. Focus on your posture. Practice in front of a mirror. Do not slump if you can help it. Chin up, shoulders back, stomach tucked, and don't lock your knees. Stand against a wall until you are sure you can stand straight. Eyes ahead and walk in a natural pace. This is why good shoes are important. Unless you have a physical disability that hinders your walk, you need to stand straight and walk straight.

During the interview, you're likely to be seated. Sit straight. Don't lounge. Do not cross your arms. It is a closed posture and indicates a lack of openness. You don't want to convey that message. If the chair has arms, put your arms on it in a relaxed manner. If it doesn't, lightly clasp you hands in your lap. If you can find another way to leave the arms uncrossed that looks natural, that is best.

Don't clench your fist. Don't pick your face, nose, mouth or hair. If you must cross your legs, be sure you remain erect in your chair. It is easy to slip down when the legs are crossed. It isn't flattering at times either. It is better to cross your legs at the ankles than at the knees. Better for you and a more positive (open) posture.

There are things you can read to tell you about positive body language. I would encourage you to review some of these also. Sometimes we just can't figure out why we didn't get the job when we had all the required skills. Presentation is everything, whether you are baking a cake or making a bed or interviewing for a job. Take time to do your homework.

So, have I missed anything? You will have to tell me.

Please remember these are just my observations. I've hired for support staff. I've sat on hiring boards with my current employer. So, I have some idea of what I am telling you.

If you are a woman being interviewed by a man, you are supposed to extend your hand first to shake hands. If you are a male interviewed by a woman, the woman extends her hand first. Male to male handshake, don't ever remember hearing who goes first.

Oh, remember to smile.



Tuesday, September 2, 2008

Twenty-two Things NOT to Wear to an Interview

Here is my list of things not to wear for an interview, regardless of what you will wear to do the job. I once worked as an office manager and twice I had to hire an assistant. When I tell you these are no-no's, believe me they are. The office I worked in had 8 males in it. The best compliment they ever gave me was I had hired some of the best office assistance they'd ever had.

So, if you're looking for a job, search this list for possible glitches. I promise, it won't hurt.

These are the first 21 Interview NO-NO's.

1. Open toed shoes, particularly if you don’t scrub your toes. UGH! Best to wear a nice low heeled pump.

2. Sneakers, track, running, or walking shoes.

3. Spandex. I don’t care how good your figure is, you look cheap and tacky. So help me, I had a woman come for an interview in spandex top and pants. She was apple shaped. I wrote her off before she got into the building.

4. Large Floral prints or huge quantities of floras (particularly if it is spandex). This should be obvious. You aren’t a sofa. The spandex on the woman in #3 was floral.

5. Ruffles and bows. This too should be obvious. You aren’t a gift either.

6. Mixed patterns. Plaids and stripes are nice but not together and not unless paired with a solid.

7. Peek-a-boo blouses. Sheer fabric is not appropriate for daywear, I don’t care how hot it is. If you’re applying for a stripper job, maybe.

8. Tight fitting knits that show every crease. Even skinny people have creases or bony protuberances.

9. A dress with a split to your thigh. Ditch the split until Saturday night. YOU may think that the interviewer will dig your pretty legs or think you’re sexy. A woman interviewer will not. A male may not want a vamp since his wife or girlfriend may drop into the office on occasion.

10. Shorts, regardless of how dressy they are.

11. Pancake. Those of you in theater know what this is. Understated makeup makes you look real. When it is over-done, you look tired and old. Let me just say that Cleopatra is dead and you aren’t a clown. Tar around the eyes is not attractive and plaster on the face isn’t either. Go for a natural look.

12. Unbrushed teeth. PLEASE look in the mirror! If they have never had a professional cleaning, get thee to a dentist. If you can’t afford that, get a box of Arm & Hammer Baking Soda and start using it twice at day to brush your teeth. It will eventually whiten them and it is good for your gums.

13. Too much jewelry. That tacky thing is easy to do. A ring on every finger is not attractive. Nor is five rings on one finger. Twelve necklaces aren’t either. Earrings that hang to your shoulder are not pretty. The long earlobes and gaping holes that they have caused are truly ugly. Lose the clanking bracelets. Less is more is the rule to follow.

14. Stiletto heals. Give me a break. They are not looking for liabilities.

15. Nothing purple, particularly if you are a BBW or BBM.

16. Goth. Yes, I’ve heard it is cool. . . from 16 year-olds. You’re over 21. Get over it.

17. Tattoos. No everyone is turned on by Tats and great art is best view on a wall. If you must get them, heaven forbid, please be discreet. Cover them for interviews and work. I know several professionals who have tattoos, but not because I saw them. The naked dancer on your forearm should be shared with your most intimate friends only. That pretty rose should be in a bouquet and is gift for getting the job and be in a vase where you can smell it and enjoy your accomplishment.

18. Obviously dyed black hair. See #11.

19. Weird colored lipstick and/or eye shadow. Do people still wear that electric blue eye shadow? Yep. See #11.

20. Ear phones or cell phones. Remove them from your ear, put them away and turn them off.

21. Chewing gum. You’re not a cow. Toss the cud before you enter the building.

22. Cigarettes or chewing tobacco. Neither at least an hour before. Not after you have bathed. Not while wearing your interview clothes. And try to quit. You stink to the vast majority of people, even when you aren't smoking. Besides, it cause wrinkles.

Have you seen the commercial advertising a spot remover? A guy is being interviewed for a job and is unaware of the spot on his shirt. But the spot is screaming to the interviewer so loudly that he can't hear what the guy is saying. This is what any one of these things will do for you. It draws attention away from you. You want your overall appearance to impress, not detract from what you are saying.

So, what do you wear for an interview? Hmmm, I guess that is the next post?